TOPIC: Marital Unfaithfulness
MEMORY VERSE: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” – Hebrews 13:4
BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 7:6-27 KJV
Pro 7:6 One day I was looking out my window
Pro 7:7 at some foolish teenagers and noticed one who had no sense at all.
Pro 7:8 He was walking through the marketplace and came to the corner where a certain woman lived. He then turned up the road that goes by her house.
Pro 7:9 The day was ending. The sun had set, and it was almost dark.
Pro 7:10 Suddenly, there she was in front of him, dressed like a prostitute. She had plans for him.
Pro 7:11 She was a wild and rebellious woman who would not stay at home.
Pro 7:12 She walked the streets, always looking for someone to trap.
Pro 7:13 She grabbed the young man and kissed him. Without shame, she looked him in the eye and said,
Pro 7:14 “I offered a fellowship offering today. I gave what I promised to give,
Pro 7:15 and I still have plenty of food left. So I came out to find you, and here you are!
Pro 7:16 I have clean sheets on my bed—special ones from Egypt.
Pro 7:17 My bed smells wonderful with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
Pro 7:18 Come, let’s enjoy ourselves all night. We can make love until dawn.
Pro 7:19 My husband has gone on a business trip.
Pro 7:20 He took enough money for a long trip and won’t be home for two weeks.”
Pro 7:21 This is what the woman said to tempt the young man, and her smooth words tricked him.
Pro 7:22 He followed her, like a bull being led to the slaughter. He was like a deer walking into a trap,
Pro 7:23 where a hunter waits to shoot an arrow through its heart. The boy was like a bird flying into a net, never seeing the danger he was in.
Pro 7:24 Now, sons, listen to me. Pay attention to what I say.
Pro 7:25 Don’t let your heart lead you to an evil woman like that. Don’t go where she wants to lead you.
Pro 7:26 She has brought down some of the most powerful men; she has left many dead bodies in her path.
Pro 7:27 Her house is the place of death. The road to it leads straight to the grave.
INTRODUCTION: In Christian marriage, every man must cleave to his own wife, and every wife cleaves to her own husband (Genesis 2:24), The Bible commends chaste matrimony in all sorts of men, and threatens utter destruction from God against whoremongers and adulterers (Hebrews 13:4).
- Meaning And Causes Of Marital Unfaithfulness
- Effects Of Marital Unfaithfulness And The Way Out
1. MEANING AND CAUSES OF MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS
Marital unfaithfulness talks about the inability of either or both of the partners in marriage to adhere to the vows and contract of marriage as stipulated by God. To be unfaithful is to lose the sense of commitment and dedication to one’s partner in all ramification of it. Here are some of the likely causes of marital unfaithfulness: Failure to provide for the basic nee
s of the partner/home (1 1imothy 5:8); Infidelity – lack of belief in the position of the Word of God (Titus 1:17); Lack of contentment (1 Timothy 6:6); Bad company (1 Corinthians 15:33) and Lack of self-control (1 Corinthians 7:5; Titus 2:4,6).
#2 EFFECTS OF MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS AND THE WAY OUT
Marital unfaithfulness leads to a lack of trust and insincerity among couples. It can result in hatred and bitterness (Proverbs 15:17). Due to the injection of strange blood through strange men or women, strange diseases may also be injected into the marriage system (Proverbs 6:20; 23:27). It brings about disunity which may lead to separation and eventually divorce (Matthew 19:1-9). Children in such homes learn corrupt and immoral acts and may grow up to become like their parents. It breaks down law and order and drives away peace from such homes (Proverbs 14:1, Jeremiah 6:14)
Hence, married couples must learn to mutually satisfy each other, be contented and appreciate each other throughout their lifetime (Proverbs 5:15-20). They must take the time to learn the love-making and the sexual need of each other. Love and mutual trust must not be compromised. Ultimately, the fear of God must rule and guide the heart of married couples (Ephesians 5:21; Proverbs 8:13: 2 Timothy 2:19).
If you are unfaithful in your marriage, be warned, the wrath of God is imminent. Your marriage must remain honourable in all things.
- Outline some of the causes of marital unfaithfulness
- What are the effects of marital unfaithfulness and the way out?
Monday: 1 Timothy 6:6 (KJV)
6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.
Tuesday: Proverbs 8:13 (KJV)
13 The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.
Wednesday: 1 Corinthians 7:5 (KJV)
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Thursday: Titus 2:4,6 (KJV)
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love there husbands, to love there children, 6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
Friday: Genesis 2:24 (KJV)
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Saturday: Matthew 19:1-9 (KJV)
1 And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan; 2 And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there. 3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Sunday: Proverbs 14:1 (KJV)
1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
ASSIGNMENT: Give five pieces of advice to married couple who are bent on divorce because of marital unfaithfulness.