TOPIC: Sexual Intimacy In Marriage (Part 1)
OPENING PRAYER: Father, help all partners in marriage to love one another from the depth of their hearts.
MEMORY VERSE: “A bundle of myrrh is my well-beloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.” – Songs of Solomon 1:13
BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 5:15-20
ro 5:15 You should be faithful to your wife, just as you take water from your own well.
Pro 5:16 And don’t be like a stream from which just any woman may take a drink.
Pro 5:17 Save yourself for your wife and don’t have sex with other women.
Pro 5:18 Be happy with the wife you married when you were young.
Pro 5:19 She is beautiful and graceful, just like a deer; you should be attracted to her and stay deeply in love.
Pro 5:20 Don’t go crazy over a woman who is unfaithful to her own husband!
Sexual intimacy means that a married couple (man and woman) share a special bond characterized by a shared sensual expression. They understand each other on a sexual level that has emotion behind it, instead of just being a physical act. Sexual intimacy generates pleasure and natural satisfaction. It is an obligatory act in marriage. It is a complex expression of love and a desire to communicate such love non-verbally. It gives the husband and wife a chance to express all the good feelings and thoughts they have towards each other.
TEXT REVIEW: Proverbs 5:15-20
The book of Proverbs 5:15-20 discussed mainly sexual intimacy and integrity.
Identify five phrases in the text that expressed either or both sexual intimacy and integrity. e.g.
i. “Drink waters out of thine own cistern”…… Sexual integrity and intimacy. -Vs15.
ii. “Let them be thine own and not stranger”-Sexual integrity. Vs. 17.
- SOME FACTS ABOUT SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
- BENEFITS OF SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
LESSON OUTLINE 1: SOME FACTS ABOUT SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
The teacher should use questions and answers approach to determine the level of knowledge of the students at the same time establish the fact about sexual intimacy.
Question: Is sex in marriage wrong or dirty?
Answer: No because God established it. 1 Cor. 7:2-5.
Question: Why did God establish sex in marriage?
i. For mutual pleasure. Gen. 2:24-25.
ii. For procreation. Gen. 1:28.
Question: Under what condition is sexual intimacy allowed by God?
Answer: In marriage. Gen. 4:1.
Question: What role does satisfactory sexual intimacy provide in marriage?
i. It develops deep physical, psychological, and emotional relationships. Prov. 5:15-20.
ii. It provides an opportunity for care and mutual demonstration of love. Song of Solomon 4:1-7.
Question: What is the duration of a marital relationship?
Answer: It is a life-long affair for married couples. Matt. 19:4-6.
Question: What sort of pleasure could both husband and wife derive from sexual activities?
Answer: Orgasm or sexual climax. Song of Solomon 1:2;7:3; Prov. 5:19.
Question: Should a spouse hoard or withhold sex?
Answer: No. 1 Cor. 7:5.
Question: Did God create sexual pleasure, desires, and body responses to touch?
Answer: Yes. God gave the gift of pleasure. James 1:17.
Note: No need for class activity 1. The responses to the questions should stand as a class activity.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: BENEFITS OF SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
To save time, teachers should reel out the tri-podal benefits of sex in marriage presented in the table below. However, student’s knowledge should still be tested.
- Reduces the risk of developing prostate cancer
- Reduces waist and scrotal pain
- Increases sperm counts
- Improves cardiovascular health
- Increases immunity and body fitness
- Increases level of testosterone
- Promotes long life
- Improves bladder control
- Relieves menstrual and premenstrual cramps
- Improves fertility
- Builds stronger pelvic muscles
- Helps produce more vagina lubrications
- Potentially protects against endometriosis (the growth of tissue outside uterus)
- Improves the production of the hormone oestrogen which protects against heart disease and also determines a woman’s body scent
- Regulates blood pleasure
- Burns calories
- Strengthens muscles
- Reduce risk of heart diseases, stroke and hypertension
- Increases libido and reduces inordinate affection
- Promotes better sleep and headache relief
- Emotionally boost confidence, increases happiness, level of trust, intimacy and love
- Improves ability to perceive, identify and express emotions
- Reduces stress and makes couples look younger and live longer
- Helps create a bond between the husband and his wife.
CLASS ACTIVITY: Why does Satan want illegitimate sex?
SUMMARY: Sex in marriage or legitimate sexual intimacy is approved by God for several benefits.
CONCLUSION: Sex in marriage is pleasurable and it creates intimacy between a man and his wife.
i. What does the Bible say about sexual intimacy?
ii. Are there any benefits of sexual intimacy?
CLOSING PRAYER: Father, help your children to love their spouses indeed.
ASSIGNMENT: Mention five troubles/problems which sexual intimacy prevents the spouse from encountering.
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